My fiancee and I have started a new trend, where to relieve some of our stress and just to get out and relax, we are each taking one night a week out. I have joined a softball team, and my fiancee has been going out with her friends, or getting pampered somehow ...etc. I think its awesome on alot of levels, and Ive been kinda worrying about it.
On the one hand I think getting out of the regular grind for myself, of working all day, then home at night, then back at it the next day, no matter how much I love my family, I just need to get revived a little bit. And I love having father son night. It gets my fiancee out for a few hours, I try to get her out longer but she just wont stay away :) We talk, we play, I give him a bath, I put him to bed, I clean up the house as much as I can, all before my fiancee gets home. I feel so amazing doing it, that I look forward to it the next time. I love giving my fiancee a break from it all, and I love bonding with him so that he know Im there for him. And if I make him giggle, its just icing on the cake.
But I heard most recently that some couples dont even go out at all the first 6 months to a year their child is born. I feel guilty in the fact that I spend all day long without him at work, and I have to go into work some weekends for a few hours, that I feel like Im not bonding with him enough, I feel like I am missing out on his life, and before I know it he will be walking around talking, and I will not even see it... insert cats in the cradle song here... But I feel like I will be a better Dad if I unwind at some point. And I want to start working out on a regular basis, so thats another hour a day Im away.
I just dont know the answer, I dont know if I am just doing too much, and should just suck it up and realize this is parenting. When did everyone out there decide that they could go out, away from their child. Start leaving their child with Grandparents. How soon is too soon. I'm looking for personal experiences on when you have yourself gone through this. Thank you
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That is so awesome that you are going out and doing stuff just for yourselves. Chris and I have only been out a few times together, but I try to go and do things by myself. I need a break from him too, lol. We do need to get out more just the two of us, and I really enjoy doing stuff as a family like picnics and walks.
ReplyDeleteI am not ready to leave Jude overnight yet, but I'm getting better at leaving him for a few hours with his grandparents. I'm not sure why I have a hard time leaving him with his grandparents. I am going to Vegas in Sept, and will have to leave him for 3 nights. It will be hard but I know Chris will take good care of him.
You should work out at lunch if you can, that way you don't miss any time with Ben. Or go into work earlier, and leave earlier to work out. Chris goes in early and leaves a bit early and runs on his way home from work. He still gets home at almost the same time, only 15-30 minutes later than usual.
I do know that when I've had a break, I feel happier when I see Jude and appreciate my time with him more. It's healthy for everyone to have a break, it makes for a healthier happier family.